So never in my wildest dreams did I expect this to happen. We went to get the mail yesterday and there were a few small packages in it, one for each of the kids and myself. From E. Not gonna lie at first I was like wtf? For a quick instant I was like is it something dangerous? What could it possibly be? Why after all these years, over 6 to be exact, would my ex be mailing something to his kids for the first time ever? So I sat in the front of my car and opened the Little E’s package first before handing it over just in case it was something that was better off handled by me. Is that a federal offence? I’m not 100% sure, but as a mother I’m sure you’d do it to if your ex sent your kids a small package in the mail for the first time ever after being apart for 6 years. I wanted to make sure it was something that would be good for Little E. Not harmful.
Surprise of my year when I looked in a saw a book and a card! I peeked in the card an saw the start of a nice note written to Little E. I opened Z’s package and saw something similar so I handed the packages back to the kids and told them they were from their dad.
I asked them to wait to open them and we called E so he could see their reactions as they opened the small gifts. I figured he had done this small thing for his kids he should at least be able to enjoy it. He picked up as I was pretty sure he would as I know he’s not working and doesn’t leave the house often due to his mental health issues, and watched the kids open their gifts.
I had to read the cards to the kids for them since he had written in cursive, and I will admit he did a really good job. Never in over the dozen years of knowing E has he written me a card, and now these heartfelt cards had words like I’m proud of you and you’re growing into a smart young woman etc. They weren’t just left at the writings that the cards had preprinted inside. It was really nice to see.
Then I opened my envelope and there, for the first time was an ugly ass purple card for Mother’s Day. The first one I’ve ever gotten from the father of my kids. Saying thank you for being a good mom.
And I was speechless. I teared up. Because I have to admit this week I felt like calling E and bitching at him to say I’ve been raising these kids on my own for the last 6 years without so much as a thank you, but I restrained myself One, because I’ve never done that before so why start now, and two because I’ve been really trying hard to control what kind of energy I put into the world, and also because I know he struggles with the reality of other people’s life’s at he is dealing with so much in his own mind. So I didn’t want to put that on him. So I didn’t call.
But when that card came in the mail I felt guilty for putting those thoughts out there. Yes, I needed him to acknowledge that I’ve been doing a great job and that I’ve been doing it alone. But I also need to keep my own mind in check of how I think of other people.
So I just wanted to share that my kids received the first ever gifts from their dad this week. Ones that I didn’t shop for on his behalf, and kind heartfelt written cards that they’ll treasure for a long time. And maybe it doesn’t seem that important to you, because your family is great and your dad does that stuff for you all the time, but just know I’ve been praying for this for a long time. And it’s beautiful to see it happen. And to see my kids hold those books, and get something I couldn’t give them no matter how hard I tried.
Was heart breaking and wonderful at the same time.
-Be Kind/Halsey and Marshmello-
Thank you for sharing this moment with us too. I felt like I was sitting with you in the car when this happened. Sending you lots of love ❤️
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Thank you. Appreciate it ☺️
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I’m so glad that special thing happened for your family! My parents separated when I was little, and it meant so much to me when my dad sent me books and cards in the mail. It helped me feel close to him despite the miles.
You are very patient and gracious, and certainly deserve much gratitude. Single parenting is heroic!! Peace be with you, fellow mama.
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Thank you. I know my kids will cherish this moment for a long time to come. Z asked me to reread her card to her this afternoon and then I overheard her reading it to herself a few times in her room after that. It was definitely a special gift to her.
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That is so sweet. Kids need to know their dad loves them, no matter how difficult the situation is. Sending you a giant hug, and wish I could make you a belated Mother’s Day mocha!!
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Thanks! So kind of you
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🙂 you bet.
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This is such a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing. I was a single mom for 5 years and remember how tough it was. Sounds like you’re handling it with grace. ✨💖✨
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It’s been eye opening for sure. Thanks for the encouraging words.
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Taking the high road is honorable but tough, especially when an ex has issues. You sound like a good mom. Happy (late) Mother’s Day
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Thanks Rainey. Appreciate it ☺️
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