So bar boy came over again. Two weekends in a row. And you know what. It was nice. Really nice. His dick is still too big and that part is annoying, but the part of having someone in my bed holding me throughout the night and waking up to morning sex and the intimacy part where he is so considerate of what I need and how I respond to his touch… that part is what I’ve been missing for too long. Just good old fashion guy with girl beauty. In bed talking and touching and being with someone. I need that in my life so much. My love language is definitely touch and feel and to be alone for so long has been very draining on me on such a deep level. I thought I’d be ok just having my one night stands and getting what I needed that way, but that was ultimately more draining than fulfilling and probably let me worse off than before.
So I got in touch with army guy (I know I know to many guys) from a few summers back who I never actually slept with but for some reason we got along fairly well. At least well enough that I didn’t sleep with him (because our conversations were so good) that I told him straight up that I was in love with K and there was no way we’d end up together. I know I’m so messed up, if I have feelings for a guy I don’t sleep with them? I’m backwards. So anyways army guy and I have a 5 minute chat every 4-5 months just to keep in touch and so I asked him his opinion on the following since he’s a guy I can just be honest with.
How do you tell a dude his dick is to big, but you still wanna keep him around for everything else? C he said, if you tell a guy that, he’s not going to be offended, but he’s not going to want to come just to hold you and stroke your hair. You gotta learn how to take a dick.
Annnnnnd yet another reason I never slept with him, our conversations were honest, but he was an ass. Ok. For starters. I can take hella dick. It’s when it feels like it’s gonna break a rib or trying to give you CPR and restart your heart with each thrust that I have no interest in it anymore. I like sex to be pleasurable, not feel like I have to wiggle away each time he humps me because I’m feeling like it’s hitting a brick wall inside and going to break me.
The thing is, I don’t want to fault bar boy for being so well endowed and sweet. Like he texts me everyday to say good morning and ask me how I’m doing on top of the caring vibe I got from him while he was around. Don’t worry I’m not catching feelings. Like I have zero interest in this guy long term. He already told me he’s only in town until December, which is probably why I felt comfortable enough to have him around in the first place. I knew there were boundaries from the get go. I knew it wouldn’t have a catch to turn serious, so I felt safe. I told you I’m broke 🤷🏻♀️
I’m not interested in getting attached to anyone anymore. I’ve been through enough heartache, but a girls gotta get her bed rocked WAY more often than I have been and as much as I fooled around with my toys every so often, it’s not the same for me and I don’t get the same enjoyment out of them as I do real sex. I like to be touched. I like to be tasted. I like to be pushed past my limits and I can’t do that to myself. I like to be kissed and held. Oh my god I like to be kissed. And held.
So here’s my lame dilemma. Do I risk telling him his dick is uncomfortably large, and have him stay away, losing out on the only enjoyable male companionship I’ve had in over a year? Or possibly yes I tell him and he decides that for the next few months he’d rather want my company with no sex but still everything else. Do you think he’d still stroke my hair until I fell asleep? Do you think he would sleep over and not expect sex. Or should I just keep it as is and awkwardly wiggle away each time he shoves his massively huge cock in my apparently small tight pussy, in order to keep the other benefits until December?
Like I said, it’s a lame dilemma, but a choice I need to make nonetheless.
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I think you should tell him. Let him know what you need. Maybe he will go a little easy during sex.
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Thing is… I don’t wanna like… open lines of communication with this dude lol.
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You might have to just take one for the team to get what you want or, move on to the next.
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Take one for the team??? And just what team is that exactly?
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Last time I checked my vagina was not a team sport 🧐
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I didn’t mean it like that. I mean give him what he wants to get what you want or just move on.
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Look girl lol. I don’t give guys what they want for nothing. I get what I want and it’s a mutual understanding. I cum long and hard and multiple time over or the dudes out, it’s just his dick is to long. I don’t know where your heads at but I hope you can get a guy that gives you some without asking for anything in return cause I’ll tell you that shit it the best.
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I don’t want him to think we’re moving in that direction lol
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There are ways to make him enter you more shallowly, look it up, google it and suggest those positions, or you could get him to stretch you first, get you off, get you good and wet first, lube him with you and then take what you can. Get him tied down (if he’ll go for it) and then you’re the one in charge of how much and how deep. You don’t have to do it confrontationally, just tell him you want to try a different way. Just my take on things.
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I know. And it’s not the first big dick I’ve had. But with the last guy, I wasn’t considering keeping him around for a few months so we just did our things and done. But now I don’t wanna hurt bar boys feelings.
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I would take the approach of telling him in a way that won’t be hurtful. Like a teamwork approach because that is what sex is- stroke his ego with a “baby ur just so much man for me, we have got to figure out a way that we can both keep enjoying our activities…” I have learned in my years that you can communicate your point with finesse and that is effective in getting what you want without hurting feeling. I also agree with lube. None of that cheap KY. Real silicone based lube. Positioning etc. Make it an adventure for both of u. There are a ton of ways to “skin a cat” so to speak. I would take the approach of a team challenge rather than a problem.
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